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Dating Advice with Hope
by PAULA HADDOCK
If you're single and working a full-time job, it can be hard to get out there and meet people. Local matchmaker, Hope Rike, from It's Just Lunch Denver shares some helpful tips on how to have a good work life and love life.
Matchmakers Emerge as an Antidote to the Agony of Online Dating
by Michelle Hackman
After four years of misleading photos, cheating boyfriends and messages that didn’t quite sound authentic, Natasha Topinka decided she was through with online dating. So the 41-year-old pharmaceutical saleswoman, who lives in Oklahoma City, decided to try an old-fashioned approach. Not friends of friends. Not a blind date. She signed up for a bona fide matchmaking service. Read the full article >
Everything You Need to Know About Dating Over 50, According to Therapists
“…If those methods don’t work, you can also try a matchmaking service like It’s Just Lunch, says Laino. Although they can get expensive, these services offer a more personalized experience, so you’re more likely to get a strong match right out of the gate. “You’re not just fishing online; you’re actually having someone narrow down a potential mate or two for you,” says Laino.”
Simply put, boundaries are what set the space between where you end and the other person begins. Setting boundaries is an important part of any relationship, but is especially important with a romantic partner. My clients at It’s Just Lunch will ask me, “if my partner is ‘right’ for me, should we need boundaries?”. The answer is an unequivocal YES. You may be in love, but that does not make you the same exact person as your partner. You both have needs, and they will not always align perfectly. Boundaries simply establish guidelines within the relationship so your partner understands your needs and expectations, and vice versa.
What are some examples of boundaries within a relationship?
In order to establish boundaries, you need to be clear with your partner about who you are, what you want, your beliefs and values, and just as importantly, your limits. Some people may need solo time, so a fair boundary would be “I would like to spend some time alone on Sunday afternoons”. Others may value their privacy, and say “It is not okay with me if you look through my phone without my knowledge”.
There are so many different kinds of boundaries, including privacy, personal space, material, your basic day-to-day boundaries, and if you’re a parent, there are often boundaries when it comes to your kids. The important thing to remember is that you should avoid using words like “always” or “never”. You’re in a relationship with another human being, so boundaries need to be able to bend a bit as needed.
We all have our “things”. It’s what makes us interesting! Sometimes it’s the small stuff that INFURIATES us, like our partner leaving the toilet seat up or leaving their dirty dishes in the sink. Setting a day-to-day boundary could include saying “I need 30 minutes every morning to drink coffee before interacting”, or “I’d really like us both to tidy up every night before we go to bed, I sleep much better that way”. Making sure your partner understands these small needs will make your day-to-day interactions go a lot more smoothly!
If could use a few more boundaries in your relationship, what are the next steps?
The first step is to acknowledge your needs and limits. People who do not set boundaries often act like martyrs. “I had to clean up after him or her, AGAIN”. Instead, start communicating with your partner as to why something isn’t working for you.
The second step is to acknowledge your partner’s needs and limits. This is a two-way street. Trust me, they have a few requests of you too!
The third step is simply to discuss fully until you both have a solid grasp of each other’s expectations and can acknowledge and accept your partner’s boundaries.
Understand that these boundaries are not set in stone, and that they can bend as needed. Because life happens! That being said, you need to make sure that bending that boundary is the exception and not the rule.
Can Everyday Show Producer Colleen find love through a Matchmaker?
Everyday Show Series, July 2018
In this three-part series, the hosts of Denver's Everyday Show enlist the help of Matchmaker Hope Rike of It's Just Lunch as well as IJL's in-house stylist Brandan Rader to help their favorite producer Colleen find her ideal match.
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